FUC Club not for every relationship

The first thing we noticed were the free condoms sitting on
every table. Then we saw an adult film playing in a curtained-off
room. Naked couples chatted in the jacuzzi and there were couches
and beds for all the guests to get comfortable on. Not to mention
the fully stocked bar, artichoke dip and chips on the counter.

Just another Saturday night for the sex columnists? Of course.
But this time we were at the FUC Club, a swingers group aimed at a
younger audience that even included some of our very own
Bruins.

The FUC Club, which stands for “Friends Under
Covers,” was started by a group of hedonistic students who
wanted to explore a more sexually adventurous lifestyle. Swinger
parties are the one social gathering where it’s acceptable to
ditch your date, and couples are encouraged to find other partners
to fulfill their sexual desires. This includes anything from
fooling around to having sex to enjoying the occasional threesome
““ all within view of the other partygoers.

Now maybe you’re thinking this is a group of weirdos who
can’t get normal humans to sleep with them. We’ll
admit, we were skeptical at first. The term “swingers”
had conjured up images from the 1970s of shag carpets, gold
necklaces and the parties Austin Powers threw.

Surprisingly, though, a group of attractive 20-somethings filled
the room. According to them, they weren’t
“swingers” at all ““ rather, many referred to
swinging as an “alternative sexual lifestyle” and to
themselves as “polyerotic.”

Most of the people were married, engaged or in a long-term
relationship. Some had met through swinging, most had
“swung” with their partner since the beginning of their
relationship, and a few were there to try something new with their
spouses.

“Often older couples work their way up to this point after
doing everything else the sex counselors told them to do,”
said our hostess, who founded the club with her live-in
boyfriend.

Our hostess also mentioned that couples get into swinging as an
alternative to a divorce or cheating. We were told that spouses can
still love each other very much, and while they may not want to
leave the relationship, they may want something different than what
their partner can give.

It’s a difficult concept to grasp for those of us who
aren’t used to separating sex from emotion. The other
founder, a recent college graduate, told us, “A lot of times
when people are young they have a tendency to treat significant
others as an object that fulfills a specific need for
them.”

And in reference to his girlfriend, he said, “I had to
realize that her sexuality wasn’t my property.” His
girlfriend added, “We live together 24/7, and that is the
relationship. … When both partners are open and communicate with
each other, I’ve never seen swinging hurt a
couple.”

As much as the couples assured us that swinging made them happy,
we still had our doubts. While we all can be attracted to more than
one person at a time, if you have to seek out other partners in
addition to the one you promise to spend the rest of your life
with, perhaps you’re just not with the right partner, or
you’re not ready to settle down yet.

It seems that, similar to older couples who use swinging to
rejuvenate their sex lives, this lifestyle may just be a phase that
young couples are experiencing ““ like dorm
“floorcest” or spending every weekend at
Maloney’s.

If you’re thinking of swinging, be aware that it
isn’t for everyone. You and your partner have to be extremely
secure in the relationship and have to master the skill of
separating sex from love. If both of you are curious and a little
unsure (but neither has any serious doubts), the FUC Club is the
most relaxed environment we could imagine.

People can either participate in “soft-swinging,”
only touching their partner, or they can just observe and decide if
it’s right for them. The fact that most of the group members
are college students or recent graduates means you don’t have
to worry about getting propositioned by people your parents’
age.

Find out more at www.whatisfucclub.com. For a fun,
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