Exploring G-spot provides world of orgasm potential

  Chez Shadman Shadman is a fourth-year
international development studies student who encourages you to
expand your sexual horizons. E-mail her your questions and comments
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In an attempt to increase my orgasm potential, I did a little
research and exploration this Thanksgiving weekend. Just when I
thought I already had enough to be grateful for, I realized that
there was something else.

This something else wasn’t exactly a big surprise,
although its discovery did take some patience and a certain desire
to succeed. But in the end, it was right beneath my nose all along,
calling out to me every time I’ve been aroused, “Chez,
touch me!”

Obviously, my dear lady friends (and boys, you’d better
listen up too), I’m talking about the G-spot.

What is the G-spot, you may ask?

Well, my sex-thirsty female comrades and eager-to-please
brethren, the G-spot is a bean shaped grouping of nerve tissue
located about halfway between the back of the pubic bone and the
top of the cervix. It is said to be the focal point of female
sexual arousal. The size and location of the G-spot will vary from
woman to woman, but it’s usually about the size of a quarter,
and lies two to three inches inside the vagina, directly behind the
pubic bone. Bottom line: it’s on the front wall of the
vagina, about a couple of inches above the vaginal hole.

The G-spot was named after Dr. Grafenberg. He noticed that many
women reported that the front walls of their vaginas were more
erotically stimulated than other parts of their bodies and he
investigated the phenomena.

The main component of the G-spot is the urethral sponge tissue
that surrounds the female urethra and swells during sexual arousal,
making it easier to access. The urethral sponge develops from the
same embryonic stem tissue as the prostate gland in men (which is
the organ affected by stimulating the male G-spot) and some of the
secretions observed in female urethral ejaculation during G-spot
orgasms are chemically similar to male prostate secretions. Back in
Dr. G’s time, the G-spot was even commonly referred to as the
“female prostate.”

G-spot stimulation can occur in a plethora of different ways. I
would definitely recommend a little self-exploration before
allowing another to do the stimulation for you. By detecting
exactly what it is that makes your G-spot sing, you can better
direct your partner to do the same.

The best technique is to insert two of your fingers, most likely
the index and middle fingers, into your vagina and press firmly.
Next, try to move your fingers along the vaginal wall in either
side-to-side, up and down, or circular motions until the area with
the highest level of arousal is found. This area is your most
probable G-spot region.

Before beginning, I think it’s only fair to warn you that
not every woman has the capacity to orgasm via G-spot stimulation.
Obviously, if it were as easy as touch and “Ohhh,” then
everyone would know about it and would be doing it. So don’t
be disappointed if you find G-spot arousal isn’t working for
you. There are still plenty of techniques to make women feel good
““ such as the possibilities that clitoris stimulation holds.
The G-spot is just an extra bonus.

Don’t be discouraged if an orgasm doesn’t occur as a
result of your initial efforts. The G-spot is a much harder set of
tissues to stimulate than other tissue regions because it is in a
far less accessible area of your body than regions like the
clitoris. Besides, experts say that it takes one to two clitoral or
vaginal orgasms before a G-spot orgasm can be achieved. If you want
it, you have to be willing to work for it ““a G-spot orgasm is
an elusive occurrence because of its complicated process.

Now I’ll bet that some of you reading this, namely guys,
are pretty proud of the millions of women you have brought to
orgasm through your masterful G-spot technique. Well, you’d
be surprised how well women can fake pleasure. Sorry to burst your
little bubbles, men, but if you really want to make the G-spot
work, then much of your time and effort will have to go into doing
just that ““ work. A simple in and out motion with your penile
utensil or dildo won’t get the job done.

Moreover, there are a few ways to practice with your partner.
The first is to have the female lie on her back with a pillow under
her butt and arch her pelvic region upwards. With two fingers, her
partner should enter the vagina and press firmly against the
frontal vaginal wall (the pelvic region). Like I mentioned before,
moving the fingers around the region of the wall where the G-spot
resides is probably the best way to detect the bean shaped
conglomeration of tissue.

Once your partner has his or her fingers situated on the region
at hand, soft caresses and firm pushes are a good way to begin
stimulation. You might also want to have your partner try to press
down on the outer pelvic region so as to put more force on the
G-spot.

Another technique that has been successful for women is
intercourse using the doggystyle position. With doggystyle, the
penis or dildo have better access to the frontal wall of the
vagina, therefore being able to better stimulate the G-spot.

This past weekend, I learned that there is never enough
knowledge to be had when it comes to sex. Just when you think you
know everything there is to know about it, something new comes to
your attention. My advice to all of you is to do some exploration
of your own. You never know, you just might have something else to
be thankful for next November.