Campus contributes to wrong behavior

Amirkhani is a graduate student in electrical engineering.

By Amir Amirkhani

“UCLA salutes all lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender
students.” This is the second year that this statement hurts
my feelings when I enter UCLA from Westwood.

Am I part of UCLA on that banner? Well, of course I am part of
UCLA. I have been at UCLA as a graduate student for almost two
years, but my beliefs and understanding of life do not agree with
that statement at all.

I have recently married, and my wife is also a graduate student
at UCLA. Now after a few months, it is easy for me to compare the
relief and comfort that I feel after marriage with what I had when
I was single.

It is wonderful how the nature of love is different before and
after marriage, and how comfortable one can feel by having a loved
partner in life. In fact, our feelings are only one aspect of our
amazing creation. From the physical point of view, there is
probably a lot more to be said in this regard. The whole system is
elaborately designed to provide us with the utmost pleasure and
satisfaction we can get.

I think considering the way we are created and the way all of
nature is created, there is no doubt about the right orientation
for our lives. This is correct regarding many aspects of our life
and it is particularly true about our sexual orientation. The
important thing, however, about sexual orientation is that it is
closely related to the family as the basic unit in our community,
and to our regeneration system.

Consequently, any deviation from the right path will directly
affect our society.

This deviation could be an instance of seeking more than what we
are allowed to get, or it might have other reasons. In any case,
particularly when it is publicized, it is not just experiencing
personal freedom but is a threat to the community.

Sex has gradually become an integral part of America’s
life.

This threat might not seem significant at this moment since I
think there are still many people who think like me. Nevertheless,
it is not something that can be ignored.

Unfortunately, during the past decades, sex has gradually become
an integral part of America’s life. Since the early years of
high school, adults are exposed to things that could be exciting to
them when they grew up, and some might experience them much sooner
than the appropriate time.

As a result, people are more susceptible to seeking new
experiences that can change this regularity. In a situation like
this, the main thing that might keep people from adopting wrong
behaviors is the taboo that is placed on those things by
society.

Among all abnormalities in this area, homosexuality can lead to
the worst side effects. It can shatter the basis of the family, the
community’s healthiest and most constructive unit, and change
the way of healthy regeneration.

I feel that the National Coming Out Week or more generally, the
way that homosexuality is advertised, is exactly targeting such
moral values in our society. It follows a simple idea: be proud of
the wrong thing that you do; talk about it loudly and make people
used to it.

Fortunately, this is not something that works well in a cautious
community where people care about themselves and their children;
however, it is not difficult to predict the result if we stay
ignorant about the things that happen around us.

If we remain silent, then a minority can represent our whole
community and salute themselves on behalf of us. I think that as
part of the community, it is our responsibility to educate our
children, family and friends about the irregularities that such
habits will bring to our society. Whether we are already involved
in such things or not, we can simply ask ourselves and our friends
to try to stay in the limits and be satisfied with the wonderful
things that they are blessed with.

It is clear enough, it is simple enough: why don’t we care
more about ourselves and think and decide more seriously?