Letters

Men shouldn’t bother seeking sex with
friends I’m responding to Brendan
Nemeth-Brown’s column, “Women
shouldn’t rule out male pals for dating“ (Daily
Bruin, Viewpoint, Nov. 15). Women will never be able to have sexual
relationships with their male friends unless they can release the
idea that those men are their brothers. Once a man has been
pigeonholed in such a way, it’s hard for him to get out. The
only way for him to break from this “friend” trap is to
reinvent himself, which is unhealthy anyway, since he will be
manifesting an untruthful image of himself. Besides, guys
shouldn’t believe a woman when she says, “I just want
to be friends.” It only means she doesn’t want to sleep
with them. Furthermore, college women do not want some guy who is
caring and sensitive. That’s what they say they want, not
what their gut tells them to go for. The caring and sensitive man
is “friend material” for women. That is, they have been
emasculated in the eyes of that woman and might as well be wearing
a dress and lipstick. In the dating world, the word
“friend” is tantamount to the word
“eunuch.” Women instinctually want a strong man,
someone who will take care of them. This comes from sublime
messages in the media. Men who are aloof, distant, mysterious and
somewhat aggressive, yet kind, are most frequently the type that
women want. In other words, an unavailable jerk. The truth is that
most women are ambivalent in their desires. In fact, I’d
wager that most college-aged women, or girls, haven’t got the
foggiest clue what they want in a man. That type of information
just isn’t included in the university curriculum. Finally, it
does not matter if a woman just wants to be friends. Just be her
friend and find someone else. Simply have fun with the woman and
have sex with someone else. Incidentally, this puts you in the
unavailable category, thus more attractive. The main point is if
one woman says “no” there will always be another that
says “yes.” So guys, quit whining and find someone who
will have sex with you.

Nielson Hul Third-year English

Better candidates for election needed While I
agree that Tim Carey in his submission “Choice of
America should concede defeat,” (Daily Bruin, Viewpoint,
Nov. 15), my general feeling on this past election was that neither
of the candidates were really qualified to lead our country. And
while I feel Gore has a unique opportunity to leverage his loss in
2000 and win on name alone in the 2004 election, I sure hope that
the Democrats come up with a better candidate 4 years down the
road. If the ballot in 2004 has Bush and Gore on it again, all it
means is that we’ll go through eight years with an
unqualified president instead of four. Finally, I’m sure
Carey doesn’t really think that the ballot in Florida was
confusing. I’ve voted on that style of ballot before and you
have to be extremely stupid to not be able to figure it out.

Bobby Zacharias Class of ’89
Economics